Yep, I have people in my family who separated, didn't legally divorce, but went on in their lives. Friends too. They acted as if they were fully emotionally D. The M really was effectively over except for the piece of paper, *maybe*. People go this route out of disorganization, intertia, practicalities, religious worries, and so on...
But, none of these things seem to apply to Wii. He doesn't act like he is free to be single (regardless of whether he is dating or not). He doesn't act done. And it seems to be a matter of avoidance+denial rather than any of the other reasons.
Also, FWIW, it isn't totally clear to me that the people I know who went that route really were fully emotionally D. My family member and her husband got back together a couple of times, for instance. (They were separated for 35 years.) A friend who "just hadn't gotten around to it," leapt into bed with H years later, etc...
Not saying there is anything wrong with that. It worked OK for them. Not seeing it work for Wii...
Just trying to get Wii to see that he is at more of a standstill than he'll acknowledge, a standstill that keeps doors in his life closed.
