if she gives you scraps 3 to 5 minutes of the "hurry up" type, I don't think you should feel a deep shame from taking it
Don't worry about me -- shame is not in my vocabulary when it comes to sex. And I can do this for a while. The problem is the long-term outlook. Can you imagine this being the only kind of sex you're going to have for the rest of your life? That's where I have a problem.
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You need to find a way to get her to orgasm. I'd start with clitoral style orgasms. Once you guys can get that out the way, she needs to do it on her own.
Boy, you make it sound so easy. I've never been able to make any headway on this because she will not let me touch her intimate areas. The few times I've tried, she recoils as if I were a pervert on a subway car.
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It will build up her interest in sex. The woman that I had that could not orgasm was "blocking" at the point of normal orgasm. They are supposed to relax and let it happen. I don't remember how we got past the "blocking", I think I talked her through it.
Sounds reasonable to me. But you're a million miles ahead of where my wife has ever been. And I've never given an orgasm to a woman.
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In getting this orgasm, I would expirament with vibrator, fingers and tounge. Let her talk you through it if necessary and indicate what she's needing.
I've suggested a vibrator, but gotten nowhere with it. Talk me through it -- well, sure, I'd love to, if I could get her that far. But this is absolute fantasy and far beyond anything I could even imagine getting her to do.
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Are you guys doing oral sex?
Are you kidding? Never happened. I've suggested it both ways. Her reply is kind of "we don't talk about that", and moving right along to something else.
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You should definately be trying to oral her to orgasm, because if you can get her to orgasm, and get her hooked on you your sex life will skyrocket.
Sounds good to me!!! Good fantasy! But so far from reality in my marriage it's almost comical to imagine. If I insisted on this she'd get angry and we'd be right back to where we were when we decided we needed to go for counseling.
