I don't really think you are the solitary type, and being stuck his hurting you as well by keeping you alone.
Sorry, I missed this post in the flurry of activity. Actually, before I was married I'd had one other R in the 10 years previous, she dumped me because she felt it was only lust that was keeping her with me...I'm not kidding. Now that I think of it, what a great dumping line that was, what guy wouldn't walk away with smile on his face after hearing that...I wonder if she meant it? Oh WTH, let's say she did!