1-I will because it is. I'm getting better at just noting the action rather than trying to interpret. The difficult part is I know I have to also be watching for positive signs that SHE is changing and coming toward the M rather than away. Not sure how I can do that unless she literraly tells me and I doubt that would happen.
2 I'm doing a good job on the GAL'ing and doing my own thing, especially this week. I consider this my first week of being ME for the first time in a long time. As far as her physical invitations, I'm going to defer to Sandi and go with the "cousin" reference. It has a little more "eeew!" in it.
3 I would really like Sandi's take on this comment about flirting with her. Personally, though maybe not this week and my consistency isn't where I want it, I would consider that as a viable "test' since I've noticed I'm even starting to be more flirty on the phone with other women I know.
4 And I have a firm belief that doing what I should rather than what I want is how we got to Sep/D talk in the first place. IMO, our M deteriorated from weak communication skills over what I would call "identity crises" as we became more parents; spouses and 'paycheques' than ourselves. And THAT is who we fell in love with.
I appreciate your assistance. Slowly but surely I'll internalize these instructions and begin to feel much better.
