Thanks Barkley. I've been following your sitch too. Yes, it is extremely frustrating especially when it appears there is no OM involved. Makes me wonder why a person wouldn't want to eventually talk?
I'm pretty sure I've reached the point that I'm going to send my W a letter to acknowledge my mistakes in the M. It seems as though some Ws want this from their H. The DBing sure isn't doing anything so maybe it's time to try something different. DBing is great but may not be the only way to go in all sitchs. I need to do something different. I won't pursue in the letter, just acknowledge my mistakes and let her know I am at a place that I am ready to talk whatever the end result.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch