Hey RU.. Google rebuildingseminars...find a location in your state and go from there. Its a course offered by different people/organizations around the country based on the book Rebuilding by Dr. Bruce Fisher...there's real emotional work you need to do..but I think the pay off can be huge.
I will have to honestly say that another thing that helped me was meeting a man in my class who has been going through the same situation as me, at roughly the same time. We have become very good friends and supporters for each other.
I have my 'bad days', but they are less frequent...there is no magic bullet to get through this stuff...it does take persistent work!
There is light at the end of the tunnel.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.