Yes, it is painful and as the weeks have gone on I've come to the conclusion that we could never get back together. As much as I hope he changes I don't think it's likely based on his past history. So right now, I'm sitting here and I feel like can't really completely move on because I'm still married and have to deal with him. Since I know I will never allow us to be together I'm grappling with moving forward like I said, mainly because I want to be able to live in this house and I can't do that with financial contribution and right now WH is still paying his portion.
I can file and be granted a divorce almost immediately in my state if I file based on adultery. Once I file it probably would be less than a month before it was legal. Are there advantages or disadvantge - I could also just file for irreconilable although I dont think thats the reason. I at least feel like the adultery would possible give me the opportunity to get alomony.
