OK, wife called, spoke a while and then I just asked her if we could talk when she came home (thought I would take it away from her as I was going nuts) she said what about, I just want to see if we can start communicating better and if we could see a MC to start. She said that she would, then I asked her if she was planning a big talk after she came home, she said she had not.
Maybe I was worrying about this too much, but with finding those notes I guess I made my mind up. Maybe she is just using that as an outlet.
So, Will try to arrange that MC next week with her. She still sounds distant though. Going to invite the kids to bed with us tomorrow night as a sign that I am not all about banging her, lol.
