Has he REALLY experienced the best of both worlds?
Or are you referring to the future possible denying him.
So far I'm thinking he has not actually experienced the BEST of both worlds.
And you seem to think that by doing this make you less of a person a doormat or something.
"Me or HER and you better pick SMARTLY Or all the Good things I COULD give you are gone!" screamed the harridan.
For the record...I only used the above line to illistrate a point. I am not calling YOU an old scolding gossipy woman.
But I wanted you to see an untasteful choice and maybe for s econd figure out how it felt.
You lose nothing by letting them sample the best of both worlds for a bit. It allows the spouse to SEE you in a GOOD light and later IF or WHEN you take it away from them...they actaully LOST something, instead of some more empty words. (from their point of view)
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
