I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Thanks guys! I think the issue is that yesterday, the custody class paperwork arrived in the mail. One envelope for me, one for stbxh. I left it in his pile. Then I asked him "you're getting a change of address this weekend, right?" and he said "well yes. I will." or something like that.

Then he is moving this weekend. I am going to purge his stuff this weekend. It will be a necessary but tough weekend. It will be sad. No getting around it. I know I won't be sad forever. But this still sucks!

And I do lots of things--work out, visit friends, take S to zoo or museum or park or swimming or tumbling, take classes, watch TV, see movies, ai yai yai! I will be ok but am just in a bad mood! grrrrr!

here is something I found looking through research articles about divorce and remarriage- about rebound dating! it is only an abstract:

Abstract
Self-help books often advise readers to avoid rushing into new relationships after a break-up. To date, there is little evidence supporting this recommendation. This paper tests the effects of rebound time, measured as time elapsed between marital dissolution and the formation of a new union, on remarriage duration. Data from the first wave of the National Survey of Families and Households and generalized additive models reveal no evidence of a rebound effect. This finding holds after adjusting for various demographic differences between respondents.

Does the Rebound Effect Exist?
Time to Remarriage and Subsequent Union Stability
Author: Nicholas H. Wolfingera
Affiliation: a Department of Family and Consumer Studies, University of Utah, Salt Lake City, UT, USA

DOI: 10.1300/J087v46n03_02
Publication Frequency: 8 issues per year
Published in: Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, Volume 46, Issue 3 & 4 February 2007 , pages 9 - 20