So I'm finding myself again, slowly, and it feels nice, like welcoming a soul home, and appologising for having left it out in the cold for a while to tend to someone elses needs.
I love this line. So true for so many of us on this bb.
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I'm also worried that I'm 'picking out' bad things about him, to help me to detach from him, and that all the bad things I 'pick on' are making me think that maybe I'll be better off. But what about the good things, I'm scared to think of them now, because I'm scared they'll interfere with detachment..you know? So at the moment my strange stratedgy of thinking of the bad stuff is helping detach.
Perhaps you are over-thinking this. Just do what you need to do in order for you to detach. Anger does work, IMHO. You have a right to be angry ... he left you and your S4 ... WTH! If that doesn't make a person angry, then I don't know what would. He's being selfish, but then he always was, by the sounds of it.
I wouldn't worry about whether it's MLC or WAH for now. Either case, you should take care of YOU now. Please, also ensure your financial safety, that you are not responsible for any debts (MLCers just love to spend and it looks like your H is a spender to begin with).
It's hard to tell MLC or no, especially in the beginning. But, your gut is telling you that that could be the case, so I would follow it. Treat it as such, for now, until you have cause to change it.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
