Well, she used to enjoy hugging and kissing. But she never enjoyed having my hands explore her intimate areas, so that's been off limits our whole marriage. Which is in stark contrast to myself -- I love being touched everywhere, a lot. I go the feeling that when she would touch me at my request, it was always without a sort of knowledge of how good it must feel, because it she would be touching me in ways she would never like to be touched herself.
Or what do you mean by "pleasure in closeness"? Orgasmic, no. Aroused, yes, but only in the early part of our marriage.
