...Because it's been years since it was freely available to you.
I understand your point, and you might be right. I don't know. But what I know is that I've always had a certain cycle/rhythm/period of about a day or two, partnered or not. I don't think it's likely that the presence of a willing partner is going to have me fall back to wanting it just once a week. Even when I had a willing partner for a few times a week, that wasn't enough, though I was "happy" with it (while supplementing it with my own solitary activity).
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And if you've *never* seen a woman have an orgasm, I don't know if you've ever had (what I would consider) really good sex. Partner engagement changes things.
Yes, I miss the experience of getting another person "there", not just myself. I think it would be a real "game changer" for me. I miss that "connection" that I imagine I would have with someone who could really mutually share sexual experience with me. It always bugged me to read those advice columns about how the considerate man makes sure his partner climaxes first -- like it's a choice?? Huh, excuse me, what advice do you have for a couple when the woman has NEVER had an orgasm? Thanks a lot, advice columnists.
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So if you have these numbers in your head
No, no, no, not just numbers, and not just in my head. I want a woman who has lots of energy for fun and sex, not just sex. A good sense of humor, talkative, erotic, etc. I have almost all of that in my wife, with the exception of her ABSOLUTE ZERO interest in sex, or even hinting about it. As I've mentioned elsewhere, she buys me Playboy calendars and such, hoping that it will take my mind off sex with her, while showing at least that she acknowledges that I have such interests and that she knows that's normal.
ssmguy, if your woman has never orgasmed it is possible she has a mental block. My ex wife had this, this mental block also tied to repressed sexuality. I'm not sure how we got past it, but once she started enjoying orgasm and doing it on her own her sexuality increased lots.
