Hey SunnyD, thanks so much for all the advice. I'm doing my best to take it all to heart. I understand that mode you're talking about ("trying to figure out why and how you could fix it"). So hard not to do that, but I know there's no one I can control but myself.
I also know I have to keep things calm and happy for the kids ... no small matter when a WAH who moves out sends such an in-your-face "bleep you" to the whole family. It doesn't help that money's so tight right now and our living situation will probably have to change soon. One day at a time, I keep telling myself. One day at a time.
Ugh...so awful, I know. It's so selfish - you want to scream! Get Dobson's book as soon as you can. It has some great examples of letters to the WAS that are tremendously effective, for yourself and to the situation.
