Don't do anything stupid, if I were you I'd hang around some friends, go find some dates or something. Most of us got the point where we are no longer going to let someone else degrade the quality of our life to the point where feel bad about ourself.
Im still fairly new to all this myself, which is why I've done more listening than posting any advice. I am still learning, and making my own mistakes on the way. I think most of us can relate to your pain. My family IS my life and has been, and I feel it slipping away. Its the worst pain I've ever had to deal with, ever. I've lost over 20 lbs in the last month, I still have hard time sleeping, even with sleeping pills. It totally sucks.
But PLEASE PLEASE rethink this, and get some help, now. There really is nothing to gain by taking your own life. Please listen to some of the folks on this forum, they have given me much advice and support. They have helped me already more than I can probably every repay.
Me 44 H 39 Met in 1998 Married in 2004 D 5, twins Bomb - May 16th, 2010
"Don't let Tomorrow or Yesterday get in the way of Today"
You can work your way through this difficult time. You must. Hold steady. Even though right now your pain seems to be clouding your vision of the future. You must hold on. There are better days ahead. One thing is for certain ...things change... things always change. Change is a part of life that you can count on.
For now - there is help for you -- call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1- 800-273-TALK (1- 800-273-8255) or 911 for help. Call right now.
And remember that you have so many people here who genuinely care about you. Many have been where you are right now. You are not alone. We are all here to support you. You will get through this. Your life will change. There are better days ahead for you.
Been there....when the hurt is that great all that comes to mind is that it will never go away...unless you make it go away.
All I can add is that you never know what tomorrow will bring. A new day is a gift...look at it that way and that you will come out of this a wiser, stronger person and I promise you that you will look back and be glad you did.
M 33, W 30, SD 10, D 5, S 4
Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!
Thank you guys for taking. I am not feeling sorry for myself as it may seem. Just not happy. Wasn't really happy in the relationship (she had her problems too)but she has new boyfriend that just made me give up. I am sure everyone says this but I can't believe this happened to me. Hell, I am 41 what does anything matter anymore. She is moving far away so there is no hope on that thing. The rest of my life is just going to slowly slip away. I used to hate waking up, now I can't sleep. The stupid thing is she was supposeto move in this month.
You need to take care of yourself, and that means not worrying or focusing on the problem. You feel like you do because your mood has been stripped by the situation.
Do the following:
1. Fish Oil supplementation, cost $5-$10 at the store for a bottle of fish oil. Stabilizes the mood and makes it more resiliant.
2. Excercise - This can be several days a week. I'd walk 30 min to an hour a day. Also get into the gym.
3. Diet. Well balanced diet, and also eat foods you enjoy. Will help your mood.
4. Be aroud positive people. Be around friends who are supportive and who enjoy your company. Do something together.
5. As a man - Date. Nothing gets your mind off a "old" woman than a "new" one. It can simply be a friend who likes to spend time with you, and it would be nice if she likes to provide intimacy.
6. Handle your business. Due to the situation, bills can stack up, get out of control. Get it managed, it will make you feel better.
7. Work. Stay ontop of your work, but keep work at work. It helps if you have things you enjoy to do outside of work.
Keep posting. Your supposed to come out of this better than before.
Also negative energy, try to stay away from it. Negative energy sources may be people you used to be around or talk to that supported your wife in her decision to take on a boyfriend. They may inject bad energy and bad kharma into you.
