Need a Plan for My Marriage

[LSG]

IDU,

I hear ya. I am going to be happy for the kids no matter what. I will not fake it either. I want them to have a great time. If wives intentions were for the kids, I would be that much more happy, but she is out to stick it to me. I think her mother is trying to get my kids off to Japan to never see me again. Everyone has told me she is up to something with them. Even our MC we had said in private, to keep an eye on your kids. It is not my imagination. I know that I have be careful, or I will not see them again if they ever go to Japan. There is no Hague Treaty, so the kids will never come back. There are still 231 kids abducted that have never been returned. Not one! Her mother and father can take, and she does not have to leave the state, and she can have her A too. I am very serious about this. It has happened.

IDU-Thank you for keeping me focused on my two beautiful, sweet kids. You think the same way that I do.

I appreciate the support always. I am doing good, but I still need the help to get through the next year.

[InLikeFlynn]

Keep the passports!!! Without a passport the kids will not be allowed on any plane!

[idontunderstand]

Even our MC we had said in private, to keep an eye on your kids. It is not my imagination. I know that I have be careful, or I will not see them again if they ever go to Japan. There is no Hague Treaty, so the kids will never come back. There are still 231 kids abducted that have never been returned. Not one! Her mother and father can take, and she does not have to leave the state, and she can have her A too. I am very serious about this. It has happened.

Sorry, LSG. I don't remember reading anywhere in your thread that this was a real threat. By all means, do not let them leave with her. I also think keeping the passports is a must.

How have you protected yourself and your kids? Are there provisions in your court papers that prohibit her taking them out of the country? I think I remember reading that there is. Make sure your L knows that you think this is a real threat, not just some BS you are throwing out there because you are going through a D.

Man, you have had enough drama to last anyone two lifetimes! I want you to go out this weekend with some friends and relax. Don't think about any of this for five or six hours and recharge your batteries. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids.

Make yourself have a great weekend!

[LSG]

ILF,

I do have all the passports, and I have taken more action that she does not know about. I do not want to disclose what that is in case she ever finds this site and me. I do know that they will not be able to leave the country at this point without a court order. My attorney is aware of this, and she will do whatever it takes to keep them here.

[idontunderstand]

ILF,

I do have all the passports, and I have taken more action that she does not know about. I do not want to disclose what that is in case she ever finds this site and me. I do know that they will not be able to leave the country at this point without a court order. My attorney is aware of this, and she will do whatever it takes to keep them here.

Good for you.

You are TCB!

[LSG]

IDU,

I have kept some of the more difficult matters that I am dealing with in my thread somewhat quiet to make sure that if she checks, I will not be in jeopardy of more problems than I have now. I have not been able to always describe the more real difficult situations that I am experiencing. I have to touch the surface more sometimes.

I have also been told to watch out for OM assaulting me, and to be careful because I suspect he has been watching my kids.

I also believe that her parents call during the day to monitor if I am home or not.

There is more, but I do not want to go any further than I have at this point.

Right now the court papers do protect me, but if a judge does not believe the possibilities that my kids will be abducted by their mother, than I will possibly lose them forever.

I am very protective of them, and I do not let them out of my sight, and that is a reason I am worried about next week with her off from work. It is stressful, but I think I have the necessary plan in place to stop her.

I wish I could go out sometime, but I try to be with kids as much as possible to watch them. She will not have the time to do what she could if I am around.

Anyways, I do what I have to. I do have my resourcefulness and my mind to fight this even with no money.

I am taking the kids out star watching tonight. They asked W to come, and I did not object even though I don't want her there with us.

Thanks for the ideas to have some fun, but I just need to see my sitch through for the kids sake.

At first a lot of people did not believe me, but everyone is finding that I am just not being paranoid. It is very real the possibility I could lose my kids forever. I am more open to talking about it with the safety messures in place.

[LSG]

Journaling 6/25/2010:

W did not arrive home until around 10:45 pm. I was just going to bed at the time. I did not even say "hi" and went to sleep. She shut the door, and I opened it because I felt locked in.

Very quiet trip taking her to work today.

Not much else. Oh, she did notice the haircuts for the kid and said they looked nice.

[LSG]

Journaling 6/25/2010:

Well today was kind of up and down. I thought about WAW alot today even though I did not want to. I went to a mandatory Parent and Childeren's Traing (PACT), and it was interesting and at times light-hearted. I learned some new things to be an even better father. It evoked some emotions about my W that I try not to feel anymore, but I guess they are still there.

I took kids to the park and I found a five leaf clover, and I hope it is lucky because I could use some right now.

W leaves no money for kids, so I had to use a credit card I have that she is paying to buy things for the kids. It is real rough. There is hardly any gas in the car now. I just need a job so bad. I try everyday to find one and be able to care for the kiddies. It is trying for me.

Took the kids for star watching, but it was kind of a failure. S and D are too young to enjoy, and I could not get the telescope to cooperate. D said she appreciates me taking them.

I overheard W telling the kids that she was going to take them to San Diego for something for the day. I hope it is only for the day. I have lost my trust in her. I will be glad to have next week over.

It is becoming very difficult on me. I never have enough sleep.

I have no one here for me to really help except a very nice neighbor man that helps me. If it was not for him, I do not know what I would do.

[LSG]

Journaling 6/26/2010:

It was 8:34 pm when I left for star watching with kids, and W was still not home.

She has a rental car from her work, or she says it is a rental. She changed the car seats from our car to the (rental?). I am hope it is not the last time I see the kids. I took down the license number on it. She better not go anywhere.

I am very sad about my life. As strong as I have been, it is really hurting me in the gut today.

[LSG]

After weeks of being strong, I find that I am very emotional today. I am trying to keep it together, but it is very difficult.

I miss W, and I wish I hated her, but I don't. I am having a very bad day. I just wish and pray that I will be okay and make it through the stress and pressure that is seemingly there everyday.