SS: Listen to Allen - he is a voice of reason!!! I'm sure like me when it all first came about you went into the mode of trying to figure out why and how you could fix it. The thing is, there might have been things you could've done differently in your marriage but there's not a person alive that couldn't say that. I know where we're at is not a pleasant place to be. If I can offer any hope it's that my H and I did reconcile after him leaving the house before... 17 years ago. Heck, part of that time he was half way around the world! Of course, going through this now I look back and figure I should've known something was going to happen come mid-life. We've hit all the classic tough spots: a few years after settling into married life, the 7-year-itch, and now MLC. I'm learning a lot of it has to do with the way he was raised - what was modeled to him. I come from parents who have been married 50 years. Not that they have the greatest relationship - but always committed.
Anyway, take the advice from here! It's good and it will get you through! Get James Dobson's Love Must Be Tough. It will help SO MUCH in addition to DR or DB!
