MLCer or addicted infidel?

[newmama]

You said this:

I have no idea what to do next or even what to prepare for.

but sounds like you do know what to do next and expect:

I am taking OP's advice to let him come to me. I do not expect to allow him home for awhile.

I have seen his OW Withdrawal before and it isn't fun.

It is more likely to be slow (or non-existent) if he did the leaving b/c she pursues him heavily. The first time he returned after 3 months. 2 weeks into his return she was guilting him terribly..."I can't get out of bed. I'm gonna die".

She contacted him constantly when he was home, every 20 min or so. A real drama queen, H equated it to "love".

unless she left him--then it might be easier. I guess you just sit tight for now!