Punkin, I'm not sure I'd pass messages through your Ds. It might be best to keep them out of the middle. You will probably be able to communicate with your H via email and text without the emotional reaction you experienced when talking with him. Written communication also keeps a record of your discussions and decisions, which may come in handy somewhere down the road.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
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