You handled it well. Didn't rescue, which is what most people do.
You may want to suggest to her putting her D action on a "stay." That's what my wife and I did (and later got an extension to it); the original stay was 3 months. It was good for us to "keep the gun to our head," so to speak, and yet gave us SOME breathing room, and a legal symbol, to show our intention to each other to try to work things out.
