I am having a really hard time navigating the lawyer's advice to give him contact with my daugher and the online advice here to go truly dark.
Mel,
No one said to "go dark" with your DAUGHTER and her father. The idea is for YOU to go dark with your husband.
I'm a little concerned that you only want to allow your daughter to see her father inasmuch as your lawyer thinks it's a good idea. It's a good idea PERIOD for her to have a good, ongoing relationship with him, regardless of what happens with you guys and your marriage.
