At this point, when I question him or make demands it just seems to push him away. I did tell him when he came to me to apologize for the OW that the one thing I could not tolerate would be for him to still be seeing her and talking to her or to anyone else for that matter. Other than that, I don't no what other boundaries to give him at this point. I realize that he's cake-eating but the alternative that we had before this during the first month and a half we were separated was fighting, arguing, and at best silence.
I don't know honestly how to make him think he is LOSING me at this point. I understand what you are saying in concept but am not sure how to do that. When I say that I will go ahead and shell out the money to file the papers he responds with "Why?". I asked him not that long ago what he would do if I put papers in front of him to sign and his response was "I would sign them because if you(meaning me) are putting them in front of me, it means that a divorce is what you(me) want." UGH! I do get it that he might take some action if he thought he was actually going to lose me and this family, but don't know what to do other than call his bluff with filing to end it. Desperately afraid that will backfire right in my face.
