He's not going to like your letter.. but he DID need to HEAR that...
He wanted you to feel SORRY for him and CODDLE his addictive behaviour... your letter told him NO...
Your letter told him to GROW UP
He's not going to reply to that... He's going to pretend he didn't hear it...
So you just keep saying that... and AVIOD talking.. this is something I learned early on.. if they don't reply its because their instincts can't process... what happens is their emotions end up bottled up and they come to a boil and his reply will come out in a rant at one point..
Be ready to WALK AWAY if he tries that...
YOu have three teenagers, this should be easy enough to deal with... Just imagine right now you have one extra...
Ha ha...so true!!! He did change somewhat when he saw that I was not changing in my behavior/stance. Instead of going into the office to spend the evening playing XBox, he watched a movie with me and laughed...and kept looking at me and then wanted to "trade" back scratches. We did. Did not lead to sex which is good because I was going to say no if he tried. Not one mention of the letter at all.
