There will be a bit of frustration on her part that you are doing what she wanted, but just keep doing it... I theorized a while back on this forum that this is all a subconcious test of your commitment...
That your spouse makes things great for years and then suddenly wonders... what is he willing to go through FOR ME?
Then hell starts and lasts for a long wasteful time and you have to prove your commitment under the most painful circumstances you can...
Re : D papers, you have a pretty good strategy I would say... Oftentimes I thinks he's just trying to get a rise out of you to konw you still care... don't give her the satisfaction... it will turn into a sick game if you go that route...
I wish her parents or her sister could tell her meddling friends to get lost though, they are an obstacle right now...