Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Well, I have been trying to make the home an inviting place. I have done so much home improvement lately, that I can barely do anything useful at the gym I am so sore. I do all this stuff, and I do it hard. I am careful and meticulous with it all. I take GREAT pride in it for me. Complete opposite of what I used to be about that.

And it makes her dreadfully angry, like "Why couldn't you have done this before???? What does it matter now?" And she doesn't acknowledge it to me one bit. She goes out of her way to make sure I see that the doesn't care.

You were in a lot of emotional shock for several days..

No kidding there. I was in emotional shock ON HERE AND IN PRIVATE. I had to let my emotions out somehow so I could keep up with the poker.

My first week after the bomb I was a mess. The second week I was better, but had the EA to deal with. The 3rd week is when I exposed and all Hell broke loose. These past 2 weeks I have been being detached ect.

But she holds onto things ALOT. In her mind, she is still living in the 1st and 3rd weeks and all the negative emotions. She mentioned an "awkwardness" between us, and I just replied "I don't feel anything like that".

And finally, from my intel, she is 100% expecting that when I am served the papers, that I am going to go ballistic and make her life miserable. My 180 then has to be to make sure she KNOWS I got and read the papers, and then just act like I got a meaningless document that doesn't deserve my attention.

I actually want to act like there is something else that is far more important that REALLY needs my attention.

But dealing with her and her stubbornness, is really, really difficult. She has done things that are so outrageous just as a matter of principle of her mindset that it defies any and all logic. And this is apart from the divorce.