BD, we know nothing for sure about what your WH's real "intentions" are. Speculating drives you (us all) nuts. Worse, it's feeding your sense of hopelessness about your own sitch because it makes you feel like you can't control what is happening to you.
I am an onlooker to your sitch, and I'm not as hopeless as you are today about your chances of reconcilliation with WH. But you gotta get smart about attracting him back. You need to start acting like someone who believes this and therefore who commands his respect. You do this by drawing boundaries and you enforce them in a classy manner.
