Also on the subject of an A - it is very possible that he's having an online affair for example he takes time off work , and sits at his apartment, and I can see he is online the whole time. I think it might be one of the clients he meets up with in London every couple of months. One evening pre speech , I walked into the bedroom, and he quickly closed his laptop, he said that he felt bad speaking to her (london lady) because she show interest in his hobby - which I never did (even though I bought him a $2500 bike last year :()
I dont know what one should do about affairs. Ask or leave it? He would deny it flat out, and theres no way I could prove it - shes overseas, and I have no access to his phone or PC