Being Me - thanks for the advice He does spend time with S, but on HIS terms, (I'm giving him space with his time, his activities- hoping the more space he gets the sooner his head will come straight). One week he'll be too busy, the next he'll want to see S every spare moment - it fluctuates.
I dont want to put pressure on him to spend time with S, becasue thats what I did when we were together, and I'm trying to 180 it .
Sometimes he wants to be secretive and gaurded, other times he'll want to tak like we are best chums. Sometimes he'll be overly sweet and do nice things for me, and then he'll be distant (not through my behaviour - Ive been pretty consistent with my 'whatever, it doesnt bother me, I'm content, smiley' behaviour )
I reckon I'd get top marks for the leaving him be, not answering my phone, not asking questions etc. GAL basically. I'm doing well there.
Sometimes I wonder if by being nice hes trying to reach out (never been verbal about emotions).
At the beginning of this he ws very angry, wouldnt look me in the eye (despite my being non confrontational about things), irritable, short tempered with me and S, and everyone else for that matter. Then gradually he stopped being irritated with everyone else, then stopped being irritated with S4, then came me, he's been fairly nice to me for a while now.
I dont know what to do with the nice behaviour actually - I'm just reflecting his. But for example, he's invited me to go boating with his friends on Sunday,this isnt unusual, just about every time hes gone, even post speech, hes invited me along, treats me like just one of the crowd tho, which I didnt like , I think he might feel guilty that its OUR boat and HAS to invite me whenever its used...dont know if its that or him wanting to spend time.
I am prepared for an A, dont know how I'll deal with that, I might go numb like i did with all the rest of this, or it might be the line for me, but unfortunatly I dont think I'll find out any time soon. Im not the following snooping type, I dont want to.
He does spend time with S, but on HIS terms, (I'm giving him space with his time, his activities- hoping the more space he gets the sooner his head will come straight). One week he'll be too busy, the next he'll want to see S every spare moment - it fluctuates.
, I think he might feel guilty that its OUR boat and HAS to invite me whenever its used...dont know if its that or him wanting to spend time.