Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[Walking]

I totally bought into the bogus advice from magazine columns which said that women peak sexually around age 40, etc.

I've thought a lot, and read a little bit, about the sexual peak issue (I'm 40 next month) and I'm not sure that it's a physiological peak but rather a peak that occurs with maturity and confidence.

I think women need to grow into their sexuality. It takes some maturity and self assurance to be able to make yourself open/vulnerable enough to really engage in an intimate sexual partnership.

The younger a women is the more likely she’s self conscious about her body, concerned with issues like baby making/child raising, sometimes burdened with inherited views about sexuality being dirty/naughty, her partners are likely to have been inexperienced – so she hasn’t had any mindblowing experiences to compare her own performance/experiences with ….. etc etc

By the time a woman gets to 40 she knows herself (or she should be on the way to knowing herself) and knows what she wants and that means she’s able to take responsibility for her part of the sexual relationship in a way that’s healthy.

My own experience, and the experiences of several women I’ve talked to about this, is that physically, my sexual peak was probably in my early 20s – let’s face it the body simply works better when it’s 20 than when it’s 40. Physiologically and emotionally the older I get, the more I understand my sexuality and the more I’m able to share that with a partner. I think that’s what they mean by a women’s sexual peak being in mid-life.