Geronimo made a list of goals for himself and some totally matched my needs too so I am inspired by him and have "borrowed" some of his to help me:
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What I want to focus on now: - Forgiveness. Letting go of the pain and anger, and keeping it from informing my behavior.
- Building a satisfying life for myself – and this is going to include being able to be alone without dwelling on the sadness, to be able to be complete. For this to no longer be what my life is about.
- Building a relationship with XH ... Maybe that relationship is sparse – meaning we’re co-parents –
- Being steady. Developing resilience. Staying calm. Coping with the bad moments.
And for the record, ICING CAKES IS HARDER THAN IT LOOKS! But the thing that I totally loved about trying to do the basket weave, or the stars, the ribbon, or the shell design us that they take FULL concentration so I didn't have to think about anything else!!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004