I'm right there with you on Italy's elimination being cause for celebration! That bunch need academy awards for their acting prowess!!
Back to serious subjects now.......
Wii, I have no good advice for how to get out of the funk. Unfortunately, I still find myself there often. One thing that does seem to help me somewhat is to put my ipod on the loudest, angriest music I've got and walk. Walk, walk, walk.....sometime 4-5 miles. By then end of that, singing at the tops of my lungs, passing people who just stare and wave, I feel like I'm going to be just fine. Who knows......it might work for you, it might not.
Another way I have diverted my mind is to just put a Monty Python DVD on and laugh myself sick. I can't think about my circumstances or the future void while I'm laughing. If I do that long enough then I'm tired and go to bed and usually when I get up the next day I'm doing better.
Sorry I don't have anything better to offer, but I hope that inspires you at least.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Mishka, I grew up in an Italian community and they used to drive us nuts at World Cup time! I kid you not, guys would spray paint their cars the colours of the Italian flag. My friends and I used to go out on the street corners and wave placards in support of whoever was playing Italy and we didn't even like soccer! Now, back to the serious stuff...as you said! Mish just knowing and hearing others go through this is helpful. You feel so alone when you're like this! I actually did a bit of what you mentioned, I went to the park (we have some beautiful parks around and I'm thankful for that beauty) for a walk and then decided to add running to my walking. I'd originally thought I'd go for a run today (haven't run in over a year!) but the weather this morning kind of sucked. When I got to the park I realized I had a good pair of running shoes on and was in shorts so what the heck. So I walked a bit, ran a bit, walked a bit...I used to run over five miles three times a week when I was with STBX, it helped keep me sane. Exercise is one of the things I have not been too faithful to since the separation. One of the ways to overcome Adrenal Fatigue is light to moderate exercise a few times per week. At work I walk 2-3 hours per day but it's exhausting not refreshing so when I get home more physical exercise isn't usually on my mind. So, anyway, in my journaling idiocy of this morning I did come up with a list of things that might help me bounce back to the life I'd like to have:
1- physical exercise e.g. walking, running, Yoga 2- deep breathing, meditating, prayer regularly 3-appreciate the NOW! 4- using a cognitive exercise "Is this thought really helping me right now?" 5- go back to a therapist for a bit 6-allow personal weakness, cry sometimes! 7- read my books on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy 8-Acknowledge my accomplishments and strengths 9-Recognize that feelings come and go 10- reach out to others for support- just a little! 11-See these periods as growth opportunities 12-Be kind to yourself, like you'd be to others 13-fatigue can be reversed 14- Be willing to consider AD's if you need to 15- You don't need to be perfect!!
So that's my blog for now! I'm seriously thinking of going to the game tonight, we'll see. Thanks Mish
Hobbies! I used to be active on several camping, 4x4, car-racing, finance forums (not all at once of course) and I still look at those sites depending on the mood.
Two, chores, stuff to do and GAL: meet-up groups, excercising, taking classes etc.
Three, chatting up all the hot single moms on DB- wait I see you're already doing that quite well
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
So you survived the thunderstorm last night. Any effects from the Earthquake, Tornado or G20? All have had an effect here (well the G8, not the G20). Even forced indoors during yet another tornado warning this morning. The lake is so high today that I have no beach left. But enough about me...
Redirecting negative thinking. Well - I have this problem - mind going to that "bad place"many times, especially in the night. For me it is not the divorce stuff much anymore but there are usually other things going on and many times during the past year it was more about those that kind of forced me out of my own business - something I even dream about often. I AM getting better.
When I find my mind dwelling on "THAT" subject I have a few techniques that work for me. 1. Allow myself 10 min to think about then... 2. Use the STOP sign technique. FORCE myself to stop thinking about it immediately. 3. Redirect thinking - like "change the subject"- force yourself 4. Read - that often takes the mind off the bad 5. Hobbies - mine are creating miniatures which I truly love but there are Many great hobbies out there. 6. Call someone to talk - but do NOT bring up THAT subject.
Hope some of these ideas help. I do know how it is.
Thanks SFO and SR, Just got back from the game and my team got its clock cleaned, such is life!
I have come up with a new list to keep myself busy on those "bad" days, you guys have inspired me.
1-drop something heavy on my foot 2-Taser myself 3-Try on women's clothes at Walmart 4-write really hot love letters to myself 5-do the dishes 6-lick the bottoms of my shoes 7-itemize my collection of toilet paper rolls 8-eat till I puke 9-ride up and down the elevator for hours 10-belch romantic melodies 11-Sing like the Bee Gees 12-Go cemetary hopping
Hopefully you're not planning on doing all those things on the same day. I like your list though. Let me know how the second activity goes, I might try it myself- wonder if it's kinda like touching a 9v battery to your tongue?
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
This is your best bet. You've been stuck in the same place for years now. You need MOVEMENT in your life. DO SOMETHING to get on with it. The status quo, I really believe, is literally sucking the life out of you. The physical and emotional stress of maintaining it is a constant drain, and, I really believe, the source of your adrenal fatigue.
You had a bad experience with CB. It was forseeable, it was avoidable, it is in the past. But, you crawled into your status quo hole after that and haven't peeked out. It is not healthy.
Do you really want to have another year of the same?
Who knows......it might work for you, it might not.