G, good for you. Let her do those things for a while and just accept them for what they are. Just don't try to leap frog to the eventual outcome you want to see. With time as she draws nearer hopefully you guys can get that spark back when you were dating, figure out what brought your M to an end and how to avoid it in the future and just let things mature from there. I'm hopeful for you...just let time do its thing.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again