Ok, I've done some more reading and think I found the answer to the question I posed above. I think it's ok to have simple pleasant conversations with her when SHE contacts me...but I won't initiate.

Another question though: She has a tennis court and pool at her new apartment, and before I committed to stop pursuing her, I mentioned that I'd love the chance to play her in tennis and then go swimming afterwords if she ever felt like it. She said she would give me a call if she ever had a good opportunity for this. I think she was really just open to this because she feels bad for what she's been doing, and wants to make me feel better...So if she does invite me over to play tennis and/or swim, should I accept or not? Is that pursuing?

Last edited by Mike.4545; 06/25/10 03:14 AM.
M: 29, W: 28
Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09)
Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10
Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010
Separated 5/22/10 - Present
Affair exposed 7/7/10
No children