Hey RU.. Google rebuildingseminars...find a location in your state and go from there. Its a course offered by different people/organizations around the country based on the book Rebuilding by Dr. Bruce Fisher...there's real emotional work you need to do..but I think the pay off can be huge.
I will have to honestly say that another thing that helped me was meeting a man in my class who has been going through the same situation as me, at roughly the same time. We have become very good friends and supporters for each other.
I have my 'bad days', but they are less frequent...there is no magic bullet to get through this stuff...it does take persistent work!
There is light at the end of the tunnel.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
KJ, Just checking back in with you! You sound great and I'm thrilled for all the blessings that have come your way. I'm moved into my new house in Erie, but would love to connect with you. I'm in RB51 and will also be at the picnic in August, but do we have to wait until then?
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Hey GG! We don't have to wait until then! I'm also in the Rebuilding meetup group..RB53 for me...Maybe meet for coffee at the Erie Starbucks Sat or Sun morning..not this weekend-I'll be in Estes Park hiking so maybe the 10th or 11th of July? I'll check back to see what works for you.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
Hi KJ, I just got back from dinner in Niwot with 2 of my rebuilding "sisters." Gosh I love them and wouldn't have made it through without their support. You and I are so lucky to have found rebuilding; it makes all the difference in the world. YES! Let's plan for July 10 or 11. Are you talking about the Starbucks inside Safeway at Hwy 7 and 287? Maybe there's another one in Erie I don't know about.
Have a great time hiking in Estes Park, see you soon!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Hi GG, How about July 11th. Yes- the Erie Starbucks on 287 and Hwy 7. Would 9am work for you? I'll check here.
Can't wait to get to the mountains tomorrow. Divorce was finalized yesterday...need the break and beauty of the outdoors.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
GG- 9:30am, Starbucks in Erie(hwy 7/287) Sunday 7-11-10! Brunette, 5'2" in Birks.. See you then!
Just in case anyone is wondering if things have changed at all since the divorce was final...they haven't. Ex-H is still 'angry' all the time at me per my daughters...He is seeing someone new I think- Unfortunately D12 saw a FB message from new girlfriend to ex-H, since he leaves himself logged in on FB on the shared laptop...
I know I've moved on since it really doesn't bother me about the new girlfriend. Just how it affects my daughters.
Seems like it will take him quite awhile to get through this MLC, if he comes through...I guess it'll be more interesting to watch from the sidelines than from the middle of the action(and less painful!).
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.