If you were to set goals to achieve these things, where would you start? What is one thing you could do tomorrow that would put you one step closer to one of these goals?
It's ok to start small and it's ok when you fall. I always learn more from my failures so, I don't worry to much about them anymore.
BTW, "failure" is an event, not a person and not you.
I view being scared the same way I view crying. It's ok, just never let it stop you from doing what you need to do.
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conquer my fears - these include the following: fear that i failed. fear that H will re-marry someone else, have children and be so happy. fear that i will be alone
Sweetie, you can't focus on the fear. These things may or maynot come about. It's all about perspective. Let me put a spin on the "fear that I will be alone". I'm 52, and not the smartest, most successful, prettiest or wittiest one in the room. Yet, I have a choice in whether I wind up alone or not. And let me tell you, I do know how to light up a room. It's just genuine joy over connecting with people.
And what does alone look like to you? Married? With a lover? Close friends? I am the luckiest person I know. I come in contact with the most amazing people. I'm not alone and don't think I ever will be, not really.
It takes time and effort to reframe how you think about these things. Don't think it happens overnight for anyone here.
