Full Immersion - Getting Acclimated

[Daybreak]

Forgot to mention that I had an IC appointment on Monday - progress is going very well. I related how W's job is going through a meltdown and what I did to cheer her up - no expectations and because I chose to do this. IC related that I was spot on and to come back in about two months for my next appointment.

Today turned out to be more of a challenge that I thought but I handled it well. The setup: our cell phone provider was absorbed by another company about two years ago. Last year my cell phone would not pick up any signal - turned out the SIM card needed to be changed to one from the new provider and solved the problem. I was warned that W's and D's cell phones (same make and model as mine) would need the same treatment at some point so I told W about it immediately. At the moment, all three of our cell phones are on the same account - W is listed as the authorized person after asking last year to be the sole authorized person on the account.

Yesterday D's cell phone would not pick up a signal - so I knew what the problem was and how to solve it. D and I went by one of the provider's sales locations this afternoon to make the SIM card change - but since I was not an authorized person on the account, I could not make the change alone. So I called up W at work and asked her to contact customer service and temporarily authorize me to handle this. W called back and said that they attached a note to the account giving her OK to allow this. The person who was helping us said that that was not enough - that I had to be listed on the official account. So I called W back - and W said that she would handle it on her own.

I guess that W really has some very serious control issues...

D even commented on this on the way back to the Bobcave. I did not bring up the subject and it was all I could muster to not blast W then and there. I simply told D that W wanted to take care of this herself so it was now in her hands. End of story.

I never thought that I would be saying this but I will be so glad when there is closure for the kids' sake and mine. Since W has some real control issues as well as some coparent lapses, I will have to find a way to effectively deal with the aftermath of W's actions as well as focusing on those things that I can directly control. Time to put that old thinking cap on...