It just gives you the WHOLE STORY. It is OVERALL much easier to know most EVERYTHING than to be flying blind.
I know for myself, that she says one thing to me, and then another to someone else, and then does something totally different.
Also, if you keep the records you can go back over them and search for patterns as well.
Additionally, you know what they are saying and thinking ABOUT YOU. This aids TREMENDOUSLY in doing 180s and being detached. Like if she thinks you will say or do X when something happens. You know what she THINKS you will do, and then you are able to prepare for it and then do Y or Z. Blows their mind totally.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
It just gives you the WHOLE STORY. It is OVERALL much easier to know most EVERYTHING than to be flying blind.
I know for myself, that she says one thing to me, and then another to someone else, and then does something totally different.
Also, if you keep the records you can go back over them and search for patterns as well.
Additionally, you know what they are saying and thinking ABOUT YOU. This aids TREMENDOUSLY in doing 180s and being detached. Like if she thinks you will say or do X when something happens. You know what she THINKS you will do, and then you are able to prepare for it and then do Y or Z. Blows their mind totally.
Looks like no one has been to this thread in a while. I would LOVE to tell ya'll what I know, but I'm too afraid of anyone who knows me in real life, reading it!
And then, my cover is blown.
So, for now ... suffice it to say that I am much the smarter now, in the past year, than I was to begin with.
It's been painful and enlightening, and strengthening all at the same time. So be it to anyone who needs to know the truth about a cheating spouse. FVF, you are not alone. If you think your H is the worst, please check out my threads from the beginning. You'll get an eyeful.
Omg...Thank you so much. So sorry! I never saw this reply till now! I came online to look for a list of boundaries vs. controls that PDT posted a while back. I am pressed for time, but I have seen your sitch in bits and pieces here and there. I will def. go look for your complete thread when I have more time! Thx! FVF
