By distancing and making him AN OPTION, YOU become the better option. So he feels smothered and trapped by marriage and parenthood? No problem! Act like you're going to take it away and possibly give it to someone else by regaining your confidence, reinventing your image, and moving forward without him. Throw down a gauntlet. Few men can resist the challenge. - RED
How could this work given that WH is already building a life o/seas without me and with OW?
He is in Europe now, but will be back for a couple of weeks or maybe as long as a month or two, to see the baby and be here while his mother flies in to meet her new granddaughter.
So...I have one last window of opportunity to show changes and a new me! Cos after that, I won't see him for another 6 months or a year, if his plans go ahead.
Problem: currently we only communicate on email because I have been overly angry of late. I think the birth brought up all the negative emotions all over again!
Opportunity: He LOVES seeing the baby. So I can use visitation times to "show changes" . i.e. a new, confident me.
