How to tell the kids

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Dan, I think you need a woman's perspective on this. I don't see this as rewriting or blameshifting. I think she's finally being honest with you about something she's wanted to tell you for a long time. I can totally see your W's point of view on the intimacy issue. She DID tell you no. You didn't listen to her and continued to pursue. She just caved because it was easier than fighting you off until you gave up.

Re-read your own post. Can't you see how wrong you were in some of those examples? She said there wasn't one ounce of her that wanted to do it with me at the moment, but if I wanted to, she would. Why in the world would you pursue her after she said that? It's not a strong no, but it's a no. Having sex while she has an infection? That's all about you not her. That tells her in a very intimate way that her needs or even her health are not important to you.

As women we are programmed to please our H's, meet their needs. She should have talked to you about how she was feeling but it doesn't sound like you were listening very well then. Not to mention, it's really hard to talk to someone about something so intimate when you already feel like you're not being heard.

Gosh...everything ^^^^ Bluestar said! Very good insight for Dan!

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