IB, my Ds are grown and live elsewhere, so you may not be comfortable with my POV. You will need to do what feels right to you.
I took the position that if H no longer wanted to be with me, we were no longer a family, and, except for significant life events, would not be together as one. My H sees my Ds by himself, partly because of how I feel about this, and partly because I think he has to be responsible for his relationship with his Ds on his own. It is one of the consequences of his decisions. When H invites me to participate, as much as I might like to accept under other circumstances, I don't now. I just say that I don't want to interfere in their R.
You did a great job buying some time to consider your response! I'm sure the answer will come to you.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
