He emailed you because he's confused.. he's got a lot of emotions rushing through his mind right now and he doens't understand them and can't safely cope...

MLC, addiction, or whatever it is he cant' manage so he just thrashes out doing actions on impulse... that's all he's doing is letting his impulses guide him...

In short, he's a child.

People don't worry about WHY chlidren act out the way they do... We accept that they are just in a place where they don't know any better...

Adults get like that often too... Don't try to make sense of it. If you try to make sense of it he's just going to draw you into his emotional drama and trust me you do NOT want to be there...

Let him put himself through this nonsense and MINIMIZE the impact this has on YOU and your FAMILY...

Stop the analysis... It won't get you anywhere...

It isn't about not caring, its about knowing what's HEALTHY for you and what is SICK... And getting involved in how HE FEELS right now is going to make YOU ILL...

Avoid it... avoid it and do healthy things for you and your family ... and hopefully that healthy example will be enough to draw HIM in into YOUR world instead and you BOTH will get much better..

Last edited by Allen A; 06/25/10 12:10 AM.