Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

Bluestar, thanks for your kind words. Well wii and the others here have told me I'm forbidden from getting involved with any girls or even thinking about them...hypocrites I tell ya!

Seriously though...sometimes I just want her and things to go back to the way they used to be 5 years ago before all this crap started. But deep down I know it just won't work, things are too far gone between us, there's no trust left after she's done this so many times. I just have to suck it up and prepare myself for whatever the future will look like.

Well the L hasn't said much other than if I can't make ends meet then the court will take that into consideration. As for more time with DD, we split her time 50/50 equally. We keep her two days at a time Mon-Thu and then on the weekends (Fri-Sun) we alternate every other week. Traveling etc does make a slight difference but it's not very often and we work it out amongst us. We both feel it's important that DD gets to see us often and in equal lengths of time.

Bluestar, I read your latest sitch this morning...sounds like you and H are doing well I hope you guys don't sweep the issues under the rug like we did after our last reconciliation. I tried to do things just to keep her happy but it only got us so far. So please (as OldFool advised me way back when and I didn't heed it) whatever the issues were before work on them and continue work on them consistently. Keep your channels of communication open and clear! Goodluck to you guys!