Sorry to hear of your set-back. I am pulling so hard for you. Your situation is just like mine and your success will give me great hope. I have already learned a lot from you. Thanks for sharing!
Isn't "she thinks she loves me" better than I don't love you anymore?
I'm not sure about MC. Maybe it was just our counselor or her unwillingness to work on it, but I think it just made things worse. I also read some books that didn't help my situation, but I thought they had good exercises in them for couples BOTH willing to work on the relationship. They were "Couple Skills" and "Getting the Love you Want". I also read Men are from Mars and the 5 Love Languages and liked those too. There should be required reading for all newly married couples that include books like these. Unfortunately, in my case, these are the books that told me to buy gifts, send flowers, give hugs, cuddle, tell her your feelings, etc. In my case, those were the absolute WRONG things to do. She even told me to stop, but I didn't and drove her to file for D. Now I have stopped. Completely. I just hope it isn't too late.
Do your MC's give you exercises to work on? Mine didn't. Just keep taking about the same stuff over and over. Since I had read all these books, every time I went to see him he told me that I had done more reasearch than he had recently, so he wasn't going to assign any reading. Unfortunately, my wife only read parts of these books and she didn't get assigned anything either. She said about all of the books, they didn't apply to her, they wouldn't help, she didn't need to do exercises, they annoyed her, maybe if I would have done these things 5 years ago it would have made a difference.
Sorry to rant, but you may want to try one of the first 2 books if you are both serious. Cood commuinication and needs expression exercises. I am hoping that I can put them to good use with my W one day.
