So feeling a bit stronger today. Up until I have stayed upstairs whilst my XH collects my sons. I wasnt ready to face him and also he always brings his OW with him so often felt anxious.
However, the last two visits from him I have gone to the front door, said hello and wave my sons off with a 'good bye' have fun. It has been great and empowering. Unfortunately XH doesnt even acknowledge me or say Hi, which is hurtful. I am not doing it for him though, it does feel great to start to let of the anger and get my control back.
I'm glad that you are being stronger. There is absolutely no reason for you to hide upstairs. Your XH is the one who should be hiding and ashamed - he has no business flaunting the OW in your face when picking up your sons. He certainly doesn't deserve a wave or acknowledgement from you of any kind so just keep the smiling and waving to your sons.
