- Building a relationship with XW – yes – that is not based on the wreckage of our marriage. Meaning – is not based on wanting her to come home. That is not based on need, or repair, or wanting anything from her. That is not based on me rescuing her, or her needing me. That is not based on any expectations. Maybe that relationship is sparse – meaning we’re co-parents – and maybe it’s full – meaning we’re friends. Maybe there is a long-term path to reconciliation. But thinking about it too much will not be productive.
Okay - first to pony up to the bar - It's hotter than he!! here in DC today so I'll have a nice cold margarita!
The building or rather keeping a relationship with my stbxw is what has been causing me the most problems in moving on with my life. I have been up and down as to what this should look like and I am coming to the realization that until I actually just see her in a co-parenting role, nothing more and nothing less, I am not going to be able to successfully move on. It is taking some real work and commitment on my part to move in this direction.
