Some very wise comments ladies...thanks for sharing. It really helped me to see I'm not the only one feeling anger and it's part of the process. I feel I was done wrong, was taken advantage of, was made a fool of when I did everything out of love to keep us together and change and fix things but none of that counts for anything in her mind. I'm the bad guy, I did this to us according to her when I wasn't even told that she'd decided to leave. As Gardener said not long ago: when the first time they tell you that the marriage is at risk by leaving there's not much you can do.

CG you're right about the hate part, I don't hate my STBXW but as Kelly Clarkson says "I would never wish bad things but I don't wish you well" sums up my feelings these days.


Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again