I would do this verbally. I don't think there are any legal implications as I live in a no fault state. I thnk she thinks I still don't "get it" and I haven't told her that I do. I can "show her" with my interactions with the kids, but for us intimately, there is no intimacy. How do I "show her" that I understand how badly I hurt her in the past if she is sleeping in the other room and wants nothing to do with me?