I thought I'd start a new thread as the last one was getting pretty long. Thanks to everyone who is following and posting to me, I love coming here to find your posts.
I'm trying to work out a vague plan so I get to pack in everything I want to do this year. It includes potentially being a governess on a cattle station for a period of time, I just loved my time teaching kids and I think it could be areally great experience. For now I am planning a trip to Fraser Island for my birthday and my best friend is coming out in August to visit me so I am planning some trips round the Whitsunday Islands, the Barrier Reef and the Atherton Table lands. After which time I think I'll head on over to Darwin and see if I can pick up some work there before heading down to Melbourne to stay with some family down there for Australian summer and do some travelling round Tasmania and South Australia. Then finishing in Perth and governessing. But these are very free plans, really I am going to just see where the wind takes me...
On exh weirdness he applied for the job knowing I was in Australia and I'll probably reply soon. I've just decided to let go of any weirdness and just be myself. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't ever have to reply.
Sometimes I take a look at life and think wtf?! Who'd have thought even this time last year when I was still stuck in the house we had when we were married not having a clue what was going to happen and trying to cling onto what I could from that life that I'd be sitting a year later in Australia. Ain't life strage!
Wow! That plan sounds amazing and wow on this also:-
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I've just decided to let go of any weirdness and just be myself. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't ever have to reply.
DO IT !! Brilliant idea. I think that was suggested ages ago, just drop the DBing and be yourself, be real, whatever he thinks to it. Love it! Course you cant press the fast forward button and now you're there.
Me and bf both had chances, like you, at 'breaks' in our life path when we could have just taken off to America/Australia and neither of us got around to it. And now of course we are trying for kids, its not an option. So good for you for actually doing what alot of people talk about doing in the UK and dont manage to.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Thanks so much girls. I think with a lot of things it is about losing the fear - conversing with h (we are divorced any day soon) and also going travelling. I kind of had nothing to lose by going as I had already lost my husband/ home etc and I was done with my job. My New Years resolution was to take new opportunities when they present themselves and it has really paid off so far.
I have to say I have struggled the past few days with missing home which of course leads me to miss h. I guess my old life with h was so stable and comfortable, now it is the opposite. I know it is exciting being away and I wouldn't swap it but sometimes it would be nice to curl up at home with a special someone. The grass is always greener right? when I was with h I always used to wish I was away travelling. I have to say I miss male company too sometimes. It is quite tiring being responsible for yourself all the time, it is nice to lean on another person. But in reality I think I would have to re-learn being part of a couple now, I am too used to my own company and having space. I've been out with a few guys since h but none of them were 'right' or close to being right. I have to try and not get impatient!
I hope you are doing something fabulous down under and having an amazing time.
I'm sorry you miss H. You're bound to huh, especially at times when you feel a bit lonely/miss male company. Dont be fearful about communicating with him as the old Julia, not the DBer. My therapist called it 'living authentically', being your true self without fear that others will no longer like/love/accept you. Go for it girl.
Hugs, Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
