I do'nt think teh you smell nice comment was a tactical error...
If you say that and WALK AWAY then its a home run... if you say that and hang on his space like a chimp then yes its pursuit and not helpful at all...
You have to remember he's only shareing a small part of his world with you.. there are a million things that could be going wrong right now that you arent a part of...
OW is likley at hte top of the list.. He veyr likley had another fight with her...
After three years the bickering IS gonig to happen... The unicorns and rainbows are very likley long gone by now and its getting serious... And netiher one of them has the maturity to work through that to anything resembling a long term commitment... First problem out of the gate is - HE's MARRIED!!
It just goes downhill from there... they can't sort out the ugly details of their mess with any maturity, its giong to blow up like a storm.. Just keep your distance...
if you are determined to wait it out and have the strength then keep it up... it will end most likley...
