Quick question for the vets

[Awoken]

Tell her "I will be at the house on thus-and-such a day, between the hours of thus-and-such and thus-and-such, or on (option2 here) if that works better for you. Let me know. -- TH"

Already did this. Unfortunately more than once. She keeps coming back with crazy stuff. I just wish this whole thing were over right about now.

I have no interest in all of this crazy drama anymore.

Keep it business/not personal. Don't get drawn into any drama. Be kind and polite like you would be to a stranger.

Tell her when she can pick up the stuff, offer her an alternative, give her a deadline, tell her what you will do with the stuff if the deadline passes, then live by it. It's not personal, it's what you would do with a stranger.

She can create all the drama she wants, but you do not have to participate.

I'm dealing with the same issues with my own STBXW. One of the problems I'm having with emails is that she can easily turn what ever I say in them into ammo for her rational for divorce. She needs to. As long as I cared, it mattered. I just make the emails short and polite, and I'm ignoring all the extra stuff she is attaching to them. This approach has improved things considerably.

Hang in there.